what is your bottle of perfume? this may define success in your church!

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

i'm a huge fan of the Sermon on the Mount. i believe it is paramount in the way a faithful believer in Jesus should live, act, behave, doubt, reason with, and rejoice when it comes to any aspect of life.
But in this second "beatitude", I can also see where a church as a whole should pay close attention as well.
I believe this verse could very well be the definition of what makes a church successful or not.

In Matthew chapter 4, Jesus was teaching that the kingdom of God is near, then in chapter 5 starts teaching about certain things that would allow that kingdom to draw near.
And its almost as if Jesus was saying 'you can be blessed, but its not how you thought it was going to be.'
This culture he resides in certainly had its share of pious, super holy rollers, called the Pharisees. They were "THE religious" folks of the day. All you heard and knew of them were the great things they were doing. The glory wasn't God's, it was their own.
And here Jesus said "blessed are those who mourn"?? Wait, I thought the Bible said that the manifestation of "Joy" was a fruit of the Spirit, something saying "yes, i've got real faith, because I have joy. Did Paul and Jesus conflict each other?
I don't believe so, and here's why.

I believe when you are really seeking out ways to grow in your faith, you will have doubts, depressions, fears, discouragement, anger, confusion, get hurt, and get your heart broken. Most of which do not display the fruits of the Spirit, much less, joy.
So when it comes down to it, I believe this is a way for believers to express what's going on inside of them. What's bothering them in their mind or their heart. Getting out what's in.

Its easy to play the game, fake it, let things reside inside of you that you are struggling with. Its easy to be afraid to share that for many reasons. You could be ashamed, in despair, afraid of what people will think. Possibly, just possibly, you've been faking it for so long, you might have lost touch with what's going on inside and actually believe what you present to others is the real deal. That's a bit extreme, but I suppose it could happen. Maybe your ego now has more weight than your beliefs.
maybe your ego has lost touch with grace, forgiveness, and 'being comforted' as those who mourn are.
But that's more of a personal way to look at it.

Let's look at what this could mean in reference to how a church could be the church. One question to ask: "is our church a graceful environment?" meaning, are we catering towards or encouraging people to mourn what they need to mourn (namely sin), and get out what's weighing them down, bothering them in some form or fashion.
In Psalm 32, David said "when I kept silent, my bones wasted away, through my groaning all day long...my strength was sapped in the summer heat." and later says to God, "Therefore, let all the faithful pray to you while you may be found; surely the rising of the mighty waters will not reach them. "
My question is do we simply care enough to encourage people to express their heart, if they are struggling with something.
In Luke 7, Jesus was approached by a prostitute in front of Simon, a Pharisee, and she didn't care what "the religious person" thought. She only wanted to be honest and authentic in her faith. She desired to be comforted, and that only came by sharing her heart, which came in the form of tears, hair, and a bottle of perfume.
The bottom line is, the Pharisees appear to not have been a place for her to go and share her heart. a place where she'd get beaten up, stoned, rebuked, judged, condemned, but NOT comforted.

Now, sure there are settings, environments, safe places, and boundaries to mourning, but the bottom line is, are you able to?